The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman

Hello there! Hope your weekend was relaxing and peaceful? Mine was.


I had read this article by Jada Pinkett-Smith some time last year and it resonated deeply with me; I purposed to share it on here. She wrote a series of articles on her Facebook page in defense of her daughter Willow who chose to cut her hair low, a decision which was harshly criticized. She shared knowledge on how the degradation of women has resulted in problems for both sexes.I forgot about it till today when I read something similar from Temidayo, a dear sister and friend. It's a call to get back to our true selves, a call to attune to Mother Nature rather than destroying everyone and everything egotistically. It's a call to find balance and truly complement one another rather than look down on or look up to a particular gender. It's a call to find the woman and in turn the man, both lost in the world....

I do hope you find the articles inspiring enough to share with your male and female friends alike. May we as young mothers and fathers raise men and women who restore the much needed balance in the world.....


Guest Post

Jada Pinkett-Smith: “The War on Men Through the Degradation of Woman”

How is man to recognize his full self, his full power through the eyes of an incomplete woman?
The woman who has been stripped of Goddess recognition and diminished to a big ass and full breast for physical comfort only?

The woman who has been silenced so she may forget her spiritual essence because her words stir too much thought outside of the pleasure space. The woman who has been diminished to covering all that rots inside of her with weaves and red bottom shoes?

I am sure the men, who restructured our societies from cultures that honored woman, had no idea of the outcome. They had no idea that eventually, even men would render themselves empty and longing for meaning, depth and connection.

There is a deep sadness when I witness a man that can’t recognize the emptiness he feels when he objectifies himself as a bank and truly believes he can buy love with things and status. It is painful to witness the betrayal when a woman takes him up on that offer.

He doesn’t recognize that the [creation] of a half woman has contributed to his repressed anger and frustration of feeling he is not enough. He then may love no woman or keep many half women as his prize.

He doesn’t recognize that it’s his submersion in the imbalanced warrior culture, where violence is the means of getting respect and power, as the reason he can break the face of the woman who bore him four children.

When woman is lost, so is man. The truth is, woman is the window to a man’s heart and a man’s heart is the gateway to his soul.

Power and control will NEVER outweigh love.

May we all find our way.

(culled from the website: http://www.sinuousmag.com/2012/12/jada-pinket-smith-war-on-men/)

Temidayo Ahanmisi: "A call to honour women, A call to raise men"

I have seen two aberrations to good sense under the sun...two statements to the Universe that wound the soul of womanhood...

- A mother who after bearing 4 daughters, 3 of whom are now teenagers...bears a son last and changes her name to "Mummy <the boy's name>.

I refuse to call her this, despite her subtle insistence. It is my personal protest on behalf of the silent daughters...and indeed of what our world has lost by degrading herself so.

- A female toddler in diapers, yet babbling without speech, born to Muslim parents...wearing a hijab (head and shoulder covering), the hapless child constantly tugging at the imposition to her human dignity.

To the one who pulls out a camera to snap a picture of the "cutie" I say: "Stop. This is a disgrace. An aberration to our African nature such as this can never be cute."

I don't care whether God or Man said otherwise. It is a damn shame.

Dear Nigerian Mother...we have come into a new age.
The power to change our world is in your hands. No one is standing by, waiting to lift our daughters up. They must stand abreast with the world to count.

The power to stop the rapes, the pillaging, the beatings and maltreatments from the men they will encounter as they journey starts in your homes.

The power to make men good lies with you. The power to get the Nigerian man away from the folds of the woman's thighs and send him out with courage to face the world with dignity, grace and confidence is with you.

If the Nigerian woman is not empowered, it is because the Nigerian woman refused to empower the Nigerian girl.

If the girl is weak, the boy is emasculated even before he is a man.

Look around you and see what the brothers of our daughters are turning into.

Wake up. It's morning.

About the authors

Temidayo Ahanmisi is a young, dynamic and passionate Nigerian. A liberated mind, she is an inspiration to the young generation who clamour for change within the black man's homeland. She lives in Nigeria.


Jada Koren Pinkett Smith is an American actress, singer-songwriter, and businesswoman.