Hello people, I have been tied up with exams and other responsibilites which account for my long absence from this space. Do bear with me. Hopefully, I will keep up with regular updates of my post here again starting with this one.
To conform means to act in accordance (or harmony with) to the prevailing standards, attitudes, practices, etc. In our society, there's a lot of pressure to live, act, be, and talk a certain way. What prompted this write-up was my visit to the salon to have my hair done sometimes back. While the stylist was busy weaving my hair, I heard the owner of the salon talking to a young lady who had just had her hair done. The salon owner had a debt book and told the girl that her new debt is N7000 for the hairdo and a few cosmetic items she had purchased. She seemed like a university undergraduate and indeed many of the customer of this salon are from the universities around. I had no idea how and when she intended to pay the debt but what struck me was the principle behind the act – being in debt just to look a certain way at that very young age. I know debt is not a big deal to many people but personally I abhor going into debt whenever I can and will only do so for major projects like education or mortgage. Even with this worthwhile venture, I still try as much as possible to utilize savings by planning way ahead of time. I had no idea that ladies go into debts on account of hairdo and cosmetics. The point I'm trying to make is that when people get into debt for clothes, shoes bags and hairdo, the only explanation is that they must be under some certain duress/pressure which is placed on them by the society or themselves to adhere to a certain way of life. I then ask the question “is it compulsory to live under such burden?” What will people say if they used to see me in these kinds of clothes but I no longer wear them? What if my hair is not Brazillian, won't my friends laugh at me? These are common questions that people who have chosen to live according to the expectation of society ask themselves.